For many couples, one of the trickiest parts of creating a wedding guest list is deciding who will get a plus one. Striking the balance between keeping to your budget and not stepping on anybody’s toes can be difficult. Here are a few things to consider when determining who exactly should get a plus one to your wedding.
Is the guest married, engaged, or living with their partner?
Traditionally, guests in a more committed relationship should be given a plus one, as a way to recognize their commitment to each other.
Is the guest in a serious relationship?
This is where the lines get a bit blurred. Typically, it is advised to give adult guests in a serious relationship (such as those in a relationship for more than a year) a plus one. However, if you have a lot of guests that are in serious relationships, the plus ones can really drive up the guest list.
This is where you have to assess your situation to decide what makes sense. If there are only two guests in a serious relationship, giving them plus ones won’t make a huge dent in the guest list. However, if you have a lot of guests in this boat, this could greatly affect the guest count. You may also consider splitting up the plus ones based on your relationship with certain groups of guests. For example, you may choose to give close friends in relationships plus ones, but not give any to your co-workers.
Is this person in the wedding party?
The rules mentioned above are different when it comes to the wedding party. Traditionally, a bridesmaid or groomsmen should be given a plus one, even if they aren’t in a serious relationship. They may choose not to bring anyone (especially if they aren’t dating), but it is a nice way to show your appreciation for their participation in your celebration.
Does the guest know other guests coming to the wedding?
A guest who doesn’t know anyone coming to the wedding might feel uncomfortable if they don’t have anyone to share the celebration with. In these situations, it may be a good idea to give this guest a plus one. However, if you have a group of friends who all know each other and aren’t in serious relationships, you’ll be able to get by with not giving them a plus one (if giving them one will dramatically affect your guest count).
One Final Tip
With budget constraints and venue capacity in mind, each couple will face their own unique challenges when it comes to deciding who exactly will get a plus one. Whatever you decide, it is a good idea to create a plus one rule – and then stick to it. This means that, if you aren’t giving a plus one to a college friend who has been dating someone for under a year, you shouldn’t give a plus one to another friend in the same situation. It’ll make it easier to explain the situation to guests and not cause any drama if anyone gives you trouble or asks if they could bring a plus one.
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